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I want to cover this week's episode for so long now. Well, here I am now and better later than never:

Hello Counselor E390

My Husband's Two Households

After watching this show for years now, there is always a reason for every concern and this one is no exception. This is a case of a husband and a father putting his works above his wife and family and while you learn later there's a valid reason of him working essentially around the clock, it is to the detriment of their relationship in the end. The second debt was caused tangentially by him not taking care of his wife because of his works, making it a full circle of agony. He is five minutes away, is it really that much of a hassle to go back to your own family?! Not wanting to disturb the working rhythm and restarting the kiln are just excuses in the end when you are ignoring your own family. He works as a jeweler and he couldn't even think of making her wife a wedding ring?! WTF is that? I do not care of the value of the accessory but instead the sentimental value behind it. This shows that he does not think of her romantically and does not value their marriage the same way she does. Postpartum care is vital for every woman and not having the husband there by her side twice already can be really devastating if she suffers from depression. He cares for the quality of his works since he's the only expert but if only he starts to trickle down the responsibilities and teach the part-timers more, it will help him tremendously in the long run. Life can be a rollercoaster and while it is up to you how you deal with what has been thrown in your direction, you should be aware that if you have a partner by your side, everything you do will affect them as well, so be careful and tread carefully. That hundred days calculation certainly drives it home for the dad in the end.

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I Want Freedom

My number one pet peeve that I see keeps on appearing on this program is a patriarchal household and the close second is an overbearing family member that must have their own way over others. This daughter has no free will whatsoever as every decision she makes are all being made by her father actually all throughout her life from childhood even until she's an adult and now having her own family. Parents know best for their children as the saying goes but this does not mean you have to mold their life in your image or how you think is best and disregarding them as human beings with their own free wills and personal ambitions. Having such a critical parent and even their better half starts to echo the same sentiment can really halt the child's confidence development and just emphasizing their mistakes even more and not allowing them to learn from them naturally by themselves. By not allowing them to make their own decision in life independently, they will never have the confidence to venture out bravely on their own and will always be afraid to do so. After forcing her to marry, he even force he to live close by and even intruding into their married life by coming into their household without warning. They even know their PIN numbers! Being from a rich family, he's been nourished to be a perfectionist
and he thinks that he must do the same with his own as well and thinking mightily that you are perfect and you
know best but when you start to nitpick everything in her life, she will end up frowning upon their approach instead of looking forward to it. That tips by Mangi is correct, "if a child is complimented for the process of working hard, they will work even harder." If they have done their best and not get any positive reinforcement at all and instead being scolded for it, how will that be beneficial for them? Now both parties have suffered in their health department, they know they have to make this better somehow. When she thinks of her father like that after learning of his sickness, that must be such a shock to her and to him. I'm hoping to get a positive update ...

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Not a Monster!

South Korea and plastic surgery seems to be going hand in hand and while it's been accepted as part of their culture, it's still frowned upon by others in their society. Her husband suffers from this perception despite not having any done at all. While he does not have conventional good looks, his facial features are the results of his natural puberty and you can see the progress among the pictures of his younger days. His looks are what some would strive for when they go under the knife hence the harsh criticism on him. After the confirmation trip to the doctor, the more tricky concern surfaces since at first the perspective of the wife and husband differ on the unwanted attentions and now something else comes out of it. All these focus on his looks begins to affect her negatively as she begins to be more cautious of others around him specifically and be more critical of him spending his time with his friends and female colleagues. Looking through his phone is fine if both are able to do so but downloading a location-tracking app certainly crosses the line for me. Then the real reason comes through as her view of herself changes after becoming a mother herself and when to her that trust between them has been broken, she will doubt everything about him and every trivial thing will be suspicious to her and will be under a microscope. This might not be as difficult as others, but communication is always key in a relationship.

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Well, that's all folks! Thank you for your time and please do come back for my future posts! :-)