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My husband pointed out my wrinkles.

My husband and I have been together for a bit over 10 years. We met when we were 16, it's no surprise that we've both changed over time. I've been noticing some wrinkles here and there, mainly under my eyes and eye corners. Nothing major but... it's there.
This weekend after not seeing each other for a week, my husband takes a long good stare at me. We often do this, because you know... we miss each other and it feels good just to look at the person you love. His attention was almost instantly drawn to my eyes, he looked all around them before saying "Look at that! You have wrinkles! When did this happen?"
I don't know when it happened, it kind of just did... I'm fairly sure they weren't as pronounced a couple months back. I kinda looked at him with big eyes and he just kept smiling and he kissed me before saying "it's happening, we're growing old together! This is exciting!" We both started laughing, of course.
He added that while he isn't surprised that my eyes are the first part of my face that wrinkles because I'm a happy ball of energy, he's happy because it means I'm happy and that he's proud of us.
It was refreshing to hear. Especially after all the media and articles about "how to stop wrinkles" and "how to stay young forever" which make women feel like aging is bad or something to fix. Aging is natural. Sure you can apply any cream you'd like to delay it and keep your skin hydrated, but if it happens- it's NOT a bad thing and you shouldn't feel bad about it.

by (ɔ◔‿◔)ɔ ♥carlinha1289 off of reddit

What?

A term of endearment and a show of affection from a husband to his wife that has been growing old together and delighted to see a physical evidence of it, especially if it's caused by their happiness together.

How?
Playing against type or the commercial convention that wanted to go against the effect of aging on the appearance or more specifically the skins, embracing the changes instead as a symbol of love for each other.

Why?

Criticizing your own partner to not be able to do her darndest to fight off aforementioned effect or symptoms of the passing of time or at least cover it would be stupidity at the highest level and counter-productive in helping her to come to grasp with it in today's world that put emphasize on value of cosmetic or artificial beauty instead of the natural.

Then?

It's a nice gesture by the husband to make something that's usually viewed in negative light and turned it to the favor of their relationship together and he knew her just enough that she would accept his joke (or frank observation) wholeheartedly for the betterment of their own marriage.

So?
You should learn that change is not always bad and you should embrace it if it meant that someone would benefit from that, that's even better in the end.

Lesson Learned:

"A sign of aging is not always a bad thing when you have someone at your side."